As we slide into the second half of the year I wanted to take time to reflect on the last few months. Those closest to me know that I have been going thru some personal things for a while now…hell, those who don’t know me have even noticed. But through it all, I have overcome.
Most women know that when you cut your hair off you are likely to be turning over a new leaf. Very true in my case. I love that people have grown fond of my new look and have taken the time to tell me how much they love my short hair. Not only that but so many people have told me in the last month that there is something “different” about me. People have given positive comments on how I carry myself, my smile, my attitude and my demeanor. The most stated comment from strangers is “JJ, you look so happy now.”
I am.
There is one big lesson that i learned in the last few months that I wanted to share with you in hopes that you can use this information to make necessary changes in your life that could lead to happiness.
#1 Getting Rid Of The Dead Weight
The biggest move I made this year was to let go of people that I don’t need in my life. Sometimes it is very hard because you may have been around these people for so long that you have become attached. You may even have strong feelings for a person who you know deep inside is no good for you. However, you find yourself always complaining about these people or resenting them for something that have done to hurt you yet you still keep them around. Some of the people I let go of were people that weren’t true friends, some were people who only called me for concert tickets, some were gossipers and most were liars. All were very deadly to my growth.
The first step was to make an assessment. I wrote down a list of all the people who surrounded me and started to cross people off. I even changed my phone number. I gave it only to the people who needed it. I decided I was not going to make up a story when these “non friends” asked about the number change. I told them the truth. I had to tell people “face-to-face” that they were no longer welcome in my life.
Now that these people are gone I am able to focus on my true friendships and put time and energy into helping them flourish. Not only that, I am able to focus more on me. I am confident in my decision. They had to go. These people weighed me down with their narcissistic ways. Now, I have 90% less drama in my life. Life feels great.
I dare you to give it a try.
